Now that I have your attention, I will propose the self-identification as being “Gay” is a sociopolitical identification, not a descriptor of sexual behavior or desires. Being born gay makes exactly the same sense as saying you are born Republican. In both cases there are indeed genetic predispositions. In the case of being Republican scientist have determined a specific genetic trait that causes people to prefer things that are familiar and predictable (conservative) to things new and novel (progressive). Similar findings have been identified in sexual choices. Thus I am quite right in suggesting that linkage.
A recent meta-analysis of many studies by UCLA ( http://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/Gates-LLR-Spring-2012.pdf ) had determined that 3.7% of the US population self-identify as Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or Transsexual. Roughly 1.7% self-identify as gay/lesbian. Now the gay community bashed the study siting specific studies that show roughly 10% of adults have had at least one same-sex encounter, thus they assert that the nation is 10% gay/lesbian; five times as many as in the UCLA study.
Hold on my gay friends. Here is where the game begins. The gay activist see numbers as power; to them if a guy has sucked dick even once he’s really gay, even if he hasn’t admitted it.
Really? That is the same reasoning used by the racist that said one drop of “negro” blood made someone “negro”. This position is on its face preposterous, unless one considers the political ambitions of the gay activist. They want to claim as many members as possible, and feel empowered to draft people into their group. They realize they have not convinced 4 out of 5 people who they think should join them to do so.
The same UCLA study concluded that slightly more people self-identify as bisexual than as homosexual. Which is also an attack on the gay activist because they claim there is no such thing as a bisexual, only homosexuals who have not admitted they are gay/lesbian. See the pattern?
While the gay activist are quick to point out 10% of US adults have had at least one adult same-sex encounter, well under half of those people self-identify as homosexual or bisexual. Why? For the very reason I said up front, being gay is a sociopolitical label; a label that brings negative responses from the religious conservatives and with expectations from the gay establishment. Those expectations are not light. The expectation is to be politically aligned with their leftist agenda, to be socially aligned with their community and to never ever have sex with someone who does not have your type of genitalia. To do any of these you become a traitor. Their term traitor is significant and comes with severe social penalties.
The political gay/lesbian communities have very intentionally made the bisexual label highly unappealing as you get attacked by both the religious conservatives and the gay community. The same people who loudly decry other’s defining or condemning their sexuality feel completely free to do so to bisexual. The efforts self-appointed leaders are not for individual freedom, but for group power and more importantly their personal power. In this they are not unlike the NOW claiming to speak for all women with little regard that plurality of women who abhor their ideology.
Even with those who have “signed up” they have problems. Men like the Log Cabin Republicans reject the community’s expected politics and surveys indicate that as many as one in three self-identified lesbians have sex with a man at six or more times a year.
So, I say again. People are not born gay. People, most people, as their life progresses find themselves sexually attracted to people of the same-sex to some extent or the other. Circumstances, social and religious beliefs have a huge impact on if and how often they act on that attraction. I have no doubt, if I had been befriended by a self-identified gay person in my middle to late teens, rather than by the Christian Fundamentalist, I would have just as fully adopted the sociopolitical gay label as I did the Christian label. Had I done so my life would have been quite different. Having said that, I think my underlying iconoclastic nature would have kicked back at being told what to believe by the gay community in the same way that I kicked back at the Christian community and would have come to the same place I am now.
Perhaps I’m comfortable with the bisexual label precisely because I don’t fit into the expectations of either camp. What else is a self-styled moderate to do?